The authors explain the many reasons why straight men may be drawn to gay sex how to tell whether a man is gay, straight, or bisexual and what the various options are for these couples, who can often go on to have very fulfilling marriages.
Morgan make the distinction between gay men and “straight men with gay interests” clearer to women who want to know how they can overcome these revelations. Of course, some men with gay sexual interests are gay men in a process of self-discovery they are “coming out.” These desires may only reflect a different side of a man’s sexuality or some response to childhood trauma or experiences they have not fully processed. But many times, the man is not gay or even bisexual. These and other stories illustrate the difficulties inherent when a wife or girlfriend finds out her man has had or wants to have sexual contact with other men. Why does she care what he watches if he’s not unfaithful? In couple’s therapy, Karen and Jennifer raise the same questions: Does this mean my husband is gay? Can my marriage survive? John doesn’t understand his wife’s reaction. Elsewhere, John’s wife, Karen, discovers that her husband likes to watch gay porn. When confronted, Tom doesn’t deny it, but he insists it’s just “a thing” and he isn’t gay. Just married and pregnant, she discovers that her husband has been meeting Brad for sex.
